Ep 8- God Is An Artist
The air in the studio was already thick with the smell of expensive fabrics, but the moment Femi’s mom stepped inside, the oxygen seemed to vanish completely.
She didn't look like a woman who was just stopping by to say hello.
She looked like a woman on a mission from the heavens, draped in a heavy, gold-toned lace iro and buba that rustled with every purposeful step she took.
Tammy stood up slowly, her heart hammering against her ribs.
She forced a smile that didn't quite reach her eyes.
"Mummy, you didn't tell me on time that you were coming. Please, sit down ma. Chioma, get cold water for Mummy now!"
Mrs. Ade-Olowu didn't sit immediately.
She walked around the studio, her eyes scanning the sophisticated layout.
When she finally sat on the velvet sofa, she didn't lean back. She sat on the very edge, her handbag clutched firmly on her lap.
"Tamilore, sit down," the woman said, her voice sounding like a gavel hitting a courtroom table.
"I didn't come here to drink water."
Tammy sat on the stool opposite her, her hands shaking slightly under the table.
"I am here because of my son. Femi is a man, but I am his mother. I see the way he is looking lately. He is not settled. He is buying a house, he is doing furniture, but he is doing it like a man who is chasing a shadow. What is the plan, Tammy? What is the plan for my son?"
Tammy blinked, stunned by the directness.
"Mummy, we are still... we are talking. I am praying about everything."
"Praying? For how long?" the woman snapped, her voice rising.
"Tammy, I don't believe in all these long-term relationships of two years, three years. This is not a degree program. You have known Femi for a while. Why are you wasting his time? I want you people to get married, and I want it done fast. I am not getting younger."
Tammy felt a hot surge of anger bubbling in her chest.
She wanted to stand up and tell the woman that she wasn't a commodity to be bought and packaged for her son’s happiness.
She wanted to tell her that Femi was a grown man who could speak for himself.
But the "Ibadan girl" in her, the one raised with deep respect for elders, kept her glued to the stool.
"Mummy, marriage is a big step," Tammy said, her voice tight as she struggled to keep her cool.
"I cannot just rush into it because the clock is ticking. I have to be sure."
"Sure of what?" Mrs. Ade-Olowu asked, her face suddenly softening as her eyes filled with tears.
She pulled out a white lace handkerchief and began to dab at her eyes.
"Femi is my only son, Tammy. His father is late, you know this. I have struggled all my life to make him the man he is today. All I want is to see him happy. I want to hold my grandchildren before I go to meet my Maker. I am begging you, Tammy. Marry my son. Make me a grandmother. Don't break that boy's heart."
Tammy felt like the room was closing in on her.
The emotional blackmail was so heavy she could almost feel it physically weighing down her shoulders.
She looked at the woman crying on her sofa and felt a mix of pity and intense irritation.
"Mummy, please don't cry," Tammy said, standing up but keeping her distance.
"I appreciate how much you love Femi, and I love him too, but as a person. I have told him this. I am praying, but I must be honest with you, if at the end of the day my spirit does not go with Femi, I cannot force myself to marry him. I won't marry him just to satisfy society or to make you a grandmother. It wouldn't be fair to him or to me."
The tears stopped instantly. Mrs. Ade-Olowu’s face hardened into a mask of cold fury.
She stood up, smoothing her lace with a jerky, angry motion.
"I see," she said, her voice trembling with rage.
"You think you have arrived because you are styling big people in Lekki. You think you are too big for a good man like Femi. Let me tell you something, Agbatan ni n pa abuke. It is the one who tries to help the hunchback that ends up being blamed for his condition. We tried to give you a home, but you want the world. Oya na. Continue."
She didn't wait for a reply.
She turned and marched out of the studio, her gold lace shimmering defiantly in the afternoon sun.
The door slammed shut with a finality that made the mannequins rattle.
Tammy stood frozen in the center of the room.
Her body began to shake from pure, unadulterated anger. She felt violated.
"Ma... are you okay?" Chioma asked, creeping out from the back room like a frightened mouse.
"I'm not okay, Chioma! I'm not okay at all!" Tammy shouted, throwing her catalogue onto the floor.
"The nerve! The absolute nerve of that woman!"
She grabbed her phone, her fingers flying across the screen.
She almost dialed Femi to scream at him to warn his mother, but she stopped herself.
That would only make things messier. Instead, she dialed Valerie.
Valerie picked up on the first ring. "Tammy? What’s up?"
"Val, you won't believe what just happened!"
Tammy screamed into the phone, pacing the studio floor like a caged lion.
"Femi’s mother was just here! In my studio! Crying, begging, and then insulting me because I won't promise to marry her son! She told me I'm wasting his time!"
On the other end, Valerie let out a loud, belly-aching laugh.
"Ehn? Mummy Femi? She went to the studio? Oh my God, Tammy, I can imagine your face!"
"It’s not funny, Valerie! She was crying one minute and calling me a proud girl the next! She said she wants grandchildren now! Am I a baby factory? I am so upset, my hands are literally shaking!"
"Calm down, jare," Valerie said, still chuckling.
"The woman is just worried for her son. You know how these Yoruba mothers are. To her, Femi is the sun and the moon. She’s just trying to secure his future."
"She should secure it somewhere else!" Tammy hissed, wiping a stray tear of frustration from her eye.
"If it’s not Setto’s sister, Koda, giving me attitude, it’s Femi’s mother coming to do drama in my place of work. What type of wahala is this? I just want to do my job and breathe! Nobody should disturb me o! I am done with all of them for today!"
"Take a deep breath," Valerie advised, her voice softening.
"Go home, soak in a bath, and switch off your phone. You’ve had a long day."
"I'm switching off everything," Tammy grumbled.
"If anyone calls me again today, they will hear it from me. I'm not joking."
She hung up and looked at Chioma, who was still standing there awkwardly.
"Chioma, close the store. I'm going home. If the President calls, tell him I’ve traveled."
As she walked to her car, the anger was still simmering under her skin.
She loved her work, and she was beginning to feel something deep for Setto, but the weight of everyone else’s expectations was starting to feel like a noose.
She just wanted clarity, but all she was getting was more noise.
The next day, Tammy sat in the back of a taxi, her head leaning against the window. She was not in the mood to drive. She had barely slept.
The encounter with Femi’s mother had left a bitter taste in her mouth, a mixture of violation and a strange, hollow guilt that she couldn't shake.
When she finally pulled up to the church premises, it was quiet, peaceful, and the tall palm trees in the courtyard swayed gently in a breeze she couldn't feel from inside the car.
She walked toward the administrative block, her heels clicking on the pavement, feeling like a small child going to see a principal.
Pastor Ade’s office was at the end of a long, sun-drenched hallway.
When she knocked, a soft "Come in" followed immediately.
Pastor Ade was sitting behind his desk, not looking at a computer, but reading a well-worn Bible.
He looked up, and the moment his eyes met hers, Tammy felt the dam behind her eyes begin to crack.
He didn't say "How is work?" or "Why are you late?" He simply gestured to the comfortable leather chair in front of him.
"Sit down, Tammy," he said, his voice a calm harbor.
"You look like you’ve been carrying the weight of the whole of Lagos on your shoulders." He smiled
Tammy sat, and before she could even say "Good afternoon," the first sob broke through.
It wasn't a pretty, cinematic cry. It was the messy, shoulders-shaking release of a woman who had been performing "strength" for far too long.
She told him everything. She told him about the sudden, terrifyingly deep connection with Setto.
She told him about Femi’s unwavering, suffocating goodness. And then, her voice trembling with fresh anger, she told him about the scene Mrs. Ade-Olowu had caused in her studio.
"She cried, Daddy," Tammy whispered, wiping her face with a tissue.
"She cried and then she cursed me with a proverb. She made me feel like I’m a wicked person because I don’t want to marry her son just to make her happy. Am I a bad person for wanting to be sure?"
Pastor Ade waited.
He let the silence settle in the room until the only sound was the low hum of the air conditioner.
Then, he leaned forward, his hands clasped on his desk.
"Tammy, listen to me," he began, his voice laced with the kind of wisdom that only comes from years of walking with God and man.
"You are not a bad person. You are a person in a transition, and transitions are always noisy. The enemy loves to use noise to drown out the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit."
He opened his Bible to the book of Proverbs 4:23
"The Word says, 'Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.' Diligence, Tammy, means you don't just hand the keys of your heart to the person who asks first, or the person who has the best credentials on paper. You guard it. Even from 'good' people who have the wrong intentions for your destiny."
He looked at her pointedly.
"Femi is a good man. But 'good' is not a synonym for 'God’s will.' Saul was a 'good' choice for a king in the eyes of the people. He was tall, handsome, and from a good family. But David was God’s choice, even though he was out in the field smelling like sheep.
“If you marry a man out of pity or pressure, you are not being kind to him. You are setting both of you up for a lifetime of silent resentment. That is not the marriage God intended."
Tammy sniffled, looking at the floor.
"And as Setto... his life is so complicated, Daddy. The scandal, the baby that isn't his, his sister... everyone will think you have lost your mind if you choose him over someone like Femi."
Pastor Ade smiled gently.
"I am not telling you who to choose. But in the end whoever God wants, let people talk and think.
“When God wanted to bring Ruth into the lineage of Christ, He didn't pick a nice Jewish girl from a stable home. He picked a Moabite widow with a complicated past. God is an artist, Tammy. He loves to paint beautiful pictures on messy canvases."
He stood up, walked around his desk, and laid a hand on her shoulder. The weight of his hand felt like an anchor.
"I am going to give you a roadmap for the next few days," he said.
"First, you must repent for trying to play God in your own life. You’ve been trying to 'fix' Femi’s feelings and 'manage' Setto’s pursuit. Stop it. You are not that powerful."
He handed her a small slip of paper with three passages written on them.
"I want you to study Isaiah 30:21: ‘And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it.'
“Study James 1:5 about asking for wisdom. And finally, read Psalm 37 from start to finish. It says to 'Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.'“
“Most people forget the 'delight in the Lord' part and just want the 'desires.' If you find your joy in Him first, your desires will align with His, and the confusion will vanish."
Then, Pastor Ade prayed for her. It wasn't a loud, shouting prayer. It was an intentional, authoritative petition.
He prayed for the "scales to fall from her eyes."
He prayed against the spirit of people-pleasing that was trying to cage her. He prayed that God would speak to her in a way she couldn't misunderstand.
Whether through a dream, a word, or a sudden, unshakable peace.
As he prayed, Tammy felt a physical sensation of lightness.
The "wahala" of Femi’s mother and Koda’s attitude seemed to shrink.
They weren't the main characters in her story; God was.
"Go home, Tammy," Pastor Ade said as he walked her to the door.
"Don't call Femi yet. Don't call Setto. Spend days with these scriptures. Let the Holy Spirit be your stylist for once. Let Him arrange your thoughts the way you arrange those fabrics. He is much better at it than you are."
Tammy walked out of the church, and for the first time in a week, the Lagos heat didn't feel so oppressive.
She had work to do, the kind that required a quiet heart.
The first twenty-four hours of the "Great Silence" felt like walking through a thick, invisible fog.
Tammy made a pact with herself. She muted Femi’s notifications.
She archived Setto’s chat. She decided that for seven days, she would be a ghost to the men in her life, but a present daughter to the God she had been ignoring.
Friday and Saturday were spent in a raw, uncomfortable honesty. She stayed in her pajamas, her Bible open on her lap, sitting on the rug in her living room until her legs felt numb.
She started with the passages Pastor Ade gave her, but her mind kept drifting back to her own reflection.
"Lord," she whispered into the quiet of her flat,
"I am a loud-mouthed, stubborn girl who thinks she can style her way out of any problem. I’ve been trying to pin my life together like a dress on a mannequin, but the fabric is tearing."
She spent hours in Psalm 37, reading and re-reading the part about delighting.
She realized that her delight had been in her reputation.
Being the "strong one" who didn't break Femi's heart, being the "successful one" who could handle a man like Setto. She had to strip all that away.
By Tuesday. She had a mandatory styling meeting with the Bello women.
She had spent the morning praying for "boldness and a cool head," because she knew the atmosphere would be charged.
When she walked into the private suite at the George Hotel, her heart did a quick skip, scanning the room.
Setto wasn’t there. A part of her felt a sharp pang of disappointment, but a larger part felt an immense surge of relief.
He was honoring the space she’d asked for.
However, Koda was there, looking like a high-fashion ice queen in a structured silk suit that probably cost more than Tammy’s first car.
Beside her sat Setto’s mother, who carried a quiet, terrifying grace.
"Good afternoon, Ma. Good afternoon, Koda," Tammy said, her voice professional and crisp.
She began laying out the mood boards for the thanksgiving.
Koda didn't even look up from her iPad. She adjusted her designer glasses and let out a small, audible sniff of disdain.
"Is this the lace for the primary look? It looks a bit... pedestrian for a Bello event, don't you think?"
Tammy felt the old fire flare up in her throat.
She wanted to snap back that the lace was a rare vintage find from a collector in Lyon, but she remembered Pastor Ade’s words about "quietness and confidence." She took a breath.
"It’s understated elegance, Koda," Tammy said calmly, holding the gaze of the younger woman.
"On your mother, it won't look pedestrian. It will look like royalty that doesn't need to shout."
Dr. Amina watched the exchange with a small, unreadable smile.
"I like it, Tammy."
Koda rolled her eyes, her snobbishness reaching a peak.
She stood up, smoothing her skirt as if she had just touched something dusty.
"Well, I hope the royalty matches the level of the guests. Mother, I have a lunch meeting. I’ll leave the small details to the stylist."
She walked past Tammy, deliberately brushing her shoulder, and left the room without a backward glance.
The disrespect was so loud it echoed, but Tammy just turned back to Dr. Amina and continued the presentation. She didn't let Koda’s thorns draw blood.
By Wednesday, something shifted deep in Tammy’s spirit. The noise of the world began to fade. She stopped thinking about "the better choice" and started thinking about "the right path."
She spent the afternoon reading about Ruth and Boaz. She realized that Ruth’s story wasn't just about a man finding a wife; it was about a woman finding a home for her destiny.
On Thursday night, the clarity was absolute. It wasn't a loud thundering voice from the sky. It was a deep, settled peace that sat in her stomach like a heavy anchor.
She looked at her phone.
She saw a missed call from Femi’s mother and a text from a fabric supplier. She didn't feel the panic anymore.
She felt like a woman who had finally stepped out of a storm and into a warm, lit house.
"God, I thank You," she whispered, her forehead resting against her Bible.
"I am still a handful. I am still loud. I am still stubborn. But I am Yours. And I think I finally know where I belong."
She went to bed early that night, sleeping a deep, dreamless sleep for the first time in months.
She didn't need to check her messages to know her fate. She had spent a week with the only One who truly knew it.
The silence was over, but the peace was just beginning.
My babiesssss.
A lot happened that tried to stop me from posting this episode but I couldn't disappoint my people.
Enjoyyyyy and run up the numbers 🤭
Thank you for the love on the recent episodes.
They've been encouraging. I love y'all so much.



Femi's mum is enough sign that Femi is a no.
What's all this interference...
That's how she'll force them to marry.
Then force them to start bearing children...
Then cause wahala if babies don't come early... Biko she should just be going..
God will give her her own😏
Calling somebody hunch back because she's in her thirties.. so triggering🤣
Anyhoo... I thank God for Pst Daddy....
I shall use the scriptures for me too...
Thank you Isabella 🙏
Femi"s mom didn't get the letter we sent to future mother in laws from hearts fire 😶
Isabella did you loose her own because 🤬